in Holistic Wellness, Self Mastery, self-value

Maybe it’s because I’m a newf – I have a wide practical streak.  If I have a headache, I might take a pain pill. Sure, I might also use energy work or essential oils to get rid of it, but some days I just take a pill.  Every person has to make their own decisions about these things. Personally, I like the term ‘complementary’ rather than ‘alternative’ for energy work, because I like to have all the choices. All the choices, so that I am free to do what is best for me in the moment.

How can anyone make a black and white choice about health care when there are so many variables? Some people are rigid about their perceptions, and will probably bombard me with emails about threats to my liver if I take acetaminophen or ibuprofen.  I also do regular cleansing for my liver, so I’m comfortable with my choices. I am also comfortable with my certainty that these are my choices to make.

There are a lot of challenges when making health choices these days, especially when both the allopathic and alternative communities bombard information that often seems contradictory. If you flip through any magazine or website about alternative health, by the end you’re probablhy going to feel like there are at least a dozen supplements you have to take if you want to survive and maybe a few dozen more if you want to thrive. Those same sites will tell me I’m doing a dozen things wrong from drinking tap water to eating ‘normal’ food. At the other end of the spectrum, scientists are screaming that there is no evidence that the latest wonder-berry or extract is doing anything for anyone and it’s all snake oil. How can you make a choice with all that bombarding going on? I have a few practical thoughts for you to consider, keeping in mind that I’m all about making your own choice based on what is right for you.

#3 Understanding Subconscious Authority Programs

When scientists first started screaming that smoking was a health hazard, cigarette sales plummeted.  The tobacco companies fought back. What the big companies did was very simple: they bought full page ads and plastered photos of guys wearing lab coats and stethoscopes and holding a cigarette. On the guy’s lapel would be stitched ‘Doctor So-and-so’ and the wording would say ‘I love my cigarette-brand.’ Despite mounting evidence about smoking and health, cigarette sales bobbed back up again. Advertisers took advantage of a trick using the subconscious mind to override cognitive decisions.

Here’s the trick the advertisers used: any time your subconscious is presented with contradictory information from opposing authority figures, the result is a hard-wired Freeze & Hide reaction. This is not a conscious choice that you make, it is an automatic brain-wired reaction like sweat. If you’ve ever tried deciding not to sweat, you know how well that went. If you’ve ever tried not to blink, you know it works for a short time, and then you blink anyway. When presented with contradictory information from authority figures, the brain is wired to freeze up and avoid a decision.  All the tobacco companies had to do was stop the decision and people kept right on doing what they’d been doing: smoking.

Have you ever kept right on doing what you’re doing when you think it couch-potato-dog-ttloincwould be better to change what you’re doing? Sometimes this happens when you’re munching something, and other times when you think you should be doing something ‘productive’ instead of spudding out.

Pause for a moment and consider: when you are struggling to make health decisions,  how much contradictory information is there to freeze up your subconscious? Perhaps you buy some great new supplement and take it for a while, then forget about it – just like refusing to blink, you do it for a while, then you revert to ‘normal’ behavior. Perhaps you start a new activity like an aerobic dance class  – you might even enjoy it – and before long it’s gone by the wayside and you’re back to ‘normal’ behavior.

Your subconscious resists change because of primitive survival programs – it even resists good change. At that primitive brain level you had survived what you were doing before, so your best chance of survival is to avoid messing with what is working and keep doing it.  Your subconscious has to be reprogrammed to support your quality of life in addition to your survival.  Fortunately you can use tools like Campfire and Unlock to reprogram your subconscious.

How can you resolve so much conflicting information? The trick is to teach your subconscious to feel safe with your authority. Why doesn’t your subconscious recognize your authority now? Your subconscious, primitive brain does not have the same wisdom as your modern, cognitive brain.

Your subconscious is very aware of status and expertise, but not so good with discerning reality from imagination, so even an actor wearing a white coat can convince your subconscious that they may have more knowledge about health than you do. Using tools to reprogram your subconscious is essential because you can’t ‘tell’ your subconscious to stop doing things like worrying, feeling specific inconvenient emotions, repeating habits, or being influenced by certain kinds of advertising – well, you can tell it all you want, just like you can tell yourself not to sweat.

You can find some free versions of the Unlock Tool in the Shop. The Unlock is as simple as listening to a story, and it can be very interesting to observe how your subconscious reacts as you learn how to work with it.

Another great tool for building your authority is the book The Science of No by Andrew G. Wall.  This book is designed to build the essential building blocks your subconscious needs to support confidence.


#2 Resolving tbe Internal Conflicts Affecting Your Body

Even the scientists are pretty clear that emotion affects health. Your subconscious is the realm of your emotion, and also the control system for your body. Is it any wonder that emotional states affect physical states? Does that mean it’s all about thinking positive thoughts? Unfortunately, you can’t ‘force’ yourself to have positive thoughts any more than you can decide not to sweat. Sure, you can recite positive phrases and go for the rah-rah method of trying to bully your subconscious into giving you a positive frame of mind – and it will last about as long as stopping blinking.

Fortunately, there is a method that works: to change your internal dialogue to positive it is necessary to resolve your internal conflicts. Every time you have a should, or a self-judgment, or a feeling of not-enough you are witnessing the effects of a subconscious internal conflict.

Every internal conflict you have is a result of conflicts in your personal values, often below your conscious awareness. There are many simple examples: the conflict between the desire to buy those cute shoes and the desire to save for a holiday; the conflict between the desire to eat something and the desire to lose a few pounds; the conflict between the desire to take a break and the need to take care of your family. Every time you have an argument in your own thoughts – even when you think the argument is easily resolved – you have an internal conflict.

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When you have an internal conflict, your body is the battleground.  Stress hormones, cytokines, reaction chemistry – it’s all the biological effects of your internal conflicts affecting your energy levels, your health, and your ability to follow through on your decisions.

I think the most insidious physical effect is the ‘everything is too much’ result of unmeetable requirements that can escalate into depression.  It’s a lot easier to stay well, get well and enjoy life when your body is doing positive chemistry.  Deciding to be positive isn’t going to work (well, it works about as long as deciding not to blink) so use tools that do work to resolve your internal conflicts and support your health.

I always have to pause and admit that before I had my own personal experience of recovery using alternative methods, I would never have believed that this personal transformation stuff would affect health. Since I know what I believed before, I tend to expect some cynicism, and I provide many free downloads to allow you to experience self-mastery methods for yourself. Have a look around the Shop.

#1 Actively Choosing Wellness

Your subconscious resists change because it wants to keep doing what has kept you alive. The ‘same’ becomes your subconscious comfort zone, even though you may not be comfortable or happy.  Changing your subconscious comfort zone requires reprogramming your subconscious so that you are able to sustain the changes you want to make for longer than you can resist blinking, preferably more than weeks.

Choosing wellness is outside your subconscious comfort zone. Your subconscious has hefty conform programs that want to keep you in the ‘norm’ and, bottom line – happy is not normal. Many people are stressed, overloaded, and have some sort of health problem.  Weight, bum knees, tiredness and illness are much more common than perky, energetic and happy.

You can evolve you to be a naturally happier person. This is not a quick fix. If you try popping a pill to ‘be happy’ you’re going to have other kinds of problems. The real question is whether happiness and wellness are valid and worthwhile goals.  It’s not what we’re taught: goals are supposed to be about achievement, rather than your personal state.

How can you justify having happiness and wellness as goals? It becomes really easy for people who have had a nasty brush with serious illness, which has a way of putting things in perspective – that whole ‘you can’t take it with you’ thing becomes very real. It takes courage and insight to step back from your daily life for a moment and ask yourself what is really important – and if you are part of that answer. I have been teaching self-mastery for over 20 years, because I believe quality of life is important. Perhaps that is clear to me because my health experience put things in perspective for me.

Claiming Your Power to Choose

You are the only one who can decide what is important for you. You are the only one living your life, and in a position to decide if this is a moment to take a pill for a headache or to consider essential oils or a relaxation technique, or if you have an internal conflict that is the root cause of your headache. You are the only one who can decide what is right for you, and what is important to you. You can also decide to equip yourself to resolve your conflicts so your decisions actually work, take authority in your life, and actively choose wellness.

When you are clear about what is important to you and your own authority to make your decisions, making choices about your health care is a lot easier. When you feel right about your choices it’s easy to feel confident and certain, and to feel right inside – and feeling right inside is a gateway to living a happy life.

I like doing things the easy way!